The 5 Primary Emotions Of Narcissism

*Video 130: The 5 Primary Emotions Of Narcissism (13 minutes)  - 14 Jul 2020

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixMRdqm8LMA&feature=youtu.be 

PFILA – Pride, Fear, Inferiority, Loneliness which leads to Anger. Anger is actually a secondary emotion. The 5 primary emotions of narcissism are:

1) Pride - Self-absorbed, wanting to be in control

• They are critical & impatient

2) Fear - Fear loss of control

• Cover-up mode, become defensive, justify & rationalise their actions, criticism scare them

3) Loneliness - Pride and fear results in walls being built

• Narcissists find it difficult to connect with others (disconnect)

• Narcissists are often not aware of their deep loneliness

4) Inferiority - Have guilt, shame, feeling of inadequacy

• Show up as superiority to cover up their feelings of inferiority

5) Anger - Net result of above 4 emotions

• Can result in hidden or covert passive-aggressive behaviours.

Honesty, insight, awareness & mindfulness lead to wisdom, growth & maturity. Insights are often lacking in narcissists and that is why they choose to blame others. Making the right choices: 

1) Pride Or Conscientiousness - Conscientiousness is the better alternative 

• Being conscious of the needs of the community

2) Fear Or Trust - Trust is the better alternative

• Be a trustworthy person and be willing to trust others while being aware of the possible risks

• If you can trust yourself, then you will be better able to trust others.

3) Loneliness Or Empathy / Emotional Connections - Building empathy and emotional connections is the better alternative

4) Anger Vs Calm Firmness - Calm firmness lead to good boundaries, kindness, goodness, patience.