Characteristics of Someone Who Will Make A Good Spouse

Characteristics of Someone Who Will Make A Good Spouse: (Jan 2017)

1.          Good listening skills, able to understand and respect the viewpoints of others, considerate and non-judgmental

2.          Positive focus, optimistic, "I can" attitude, grateful (or thankful) and trust others to do what is right

3.          Flexible, open-minded, able to prioritise activities and good time management skills

4.          Take responsibility for own actions, has good problem-solving skills and avoid blaming others or situations for what is / are happening

5.          Awareness & acceptance of own strengths and weaknesses, and has good self-esteem

6.          Appreciative, affirms and encourage others

7.          Patient, tolerant, kind, friendly, gentle, gracious, caring, pleasing, polite and warm.

These positive behaviours occurs in related clusters which can set off a "Virtue Cycle" over time to become better.

Avoid someone who often display the following characteristics:

1.          Poor listening skills, has difficulties understanding the viewpoints of others, inconsiderate, judgmental, mean, critical, toxic, aggressive, unforgiving, vengeful, do not respect others

2.          Negative focus, pessimistic, usually complaining about others, do not appreciate positive aspects of the situations, do not trust others to do what is right, suspicious

3.          Rigid in thoughts and actions, stubborn, narrow or closed-minded, difficulties encountering in prioritising activities / actions to be carried out, and poor time management skill

4.          Blame others or situations for what is / are happening, often complaining, making excuses and feeling helpless in situations or difficulties encountered

5.          Not aware of and do not accept own strengths and weaknesses, feel insecure, has poor self-esteem, has bouts of jealousy, project bad behaviours on others (when own behaviour is worse), possessive, petty, controlling, manipulative

6.          Is critical, toxic and judgmental of others, complaining about the behaviours of others (relatives, work colleagues, neighbours, etc.)

7.          Has fears, guilt, anger or anxiety issue or past hurts (which cannot be released), easily irritable, poor tolerance level, impatient, cold, unfriendly, feel gloomy & depressed

These negative behaviours occurs in related clusters which can set off a "Vicious Cycle" over time to become worse.