Effects of Poor Self Image, Poor Self Acceptance, Jealousy and Insecurity

Effects of Poor Self Image, Poor Self Acceptance, Jealousy And Insecurity

(26 May 2018)

The basic cognition problems relating to self image and/or self acceptance often leads to the feelings of insecurity and jealousy. The feeling of jealousy and insecurity leads to many semi-conscious thoughts, actions and behaviours such as following, mainly to unconsciously or semi-consciously hide own real and/or perceived weaknesses. Poor Self-Image, Poor Self-Acceptance Jealousy and insecurity have tendencies to lead to:

a) Perfectionism,

b) Having a fairly critical and negative internal voice / thoughts, often invalidates what others say

c) Project weaknesses unto others, hiding own weaknesses

d) Have controlling behaviours

• To hide own weaknesses
• Feel powerful in controlling others do, while having inability to control own behaviours

e) Being aggressive or angry (part of controlling behaviours), obsessive/compulsive behaviours due to negative cognition,

f) Smear campaigns and gossiping activities, mainly to hide own weaknesses

g) Often blaming others, taking fairly little self responsibilities for what is happening in the real world,

h) Focusing on what others can do (where you have limited control), for example through complaints and/or excuses, instead of what one can do (where one has full control),

i) Being unwilling to face and/or work on own weaknesses, must always be right and cannot be wrong

• Being unable to accept different viewpoints that others have

j) Paying much more attention to weaknesses that others have, than own weaknesses,

k) Continued weakness in self reflection / awareness of the real world, 

l) Black or white thinking

m) Double standards - standards applicable for others, but not applicable to self,

n) NATO - No Action, Talk Only,

o) Taking full credit for work done by others, for team work

p) Out of touch with what is actually happening in the real world, etc.

• An optimist may have dreams (that is different from the real world) that he / she is working towards; At least he / she is working / taking actions on what he / she wants in his / her dream
• Some people have dreams on what the world will do for them; They will have to wait for the givers in the world, who are willing to change the world for them.