7 Hidden Questions That Haunt The Narcissist

Video 131:  7 Hidden Questions That Haunt The Narcissist  (13 minutes)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oV2htxnc3Ro 

Narcissists have great difficulties being real, authentic or genuine. Narcissists wear hidden masks. Narcissists grow up thinking the world is not friendly. Therefore, they like to control the environment around them.

Narcissists can be demanding, and already have the scripts on what will happen written. They can be hyper-sensitive to remarks or feedbacks by others. The following are 7 questions which often haunts narcissists:

1) Do You Think I am Significant? - Narcissists have a deep and un-natural hunger for affirmations

• Narcissists can be angered or feel offended when someone has a different opinion, due to their insecurity.

• Narcissists do not know who they are? Not in touch on what they really want in life? They have a strong need for power which make them feel good at least temporarily?

• Narcissists have little sense of calmness, peace or patience.

2) Who Can I  Get To Stroke My Ego? - Who can make me feel good?

• Narcissists like to collect people who they can control.

• They hunger for preys who, or trophies which can make them feel good.

3) How Do I Compare With Everyone Else? - Life is a competition to the narcissist.

• Narcissists use evaluative thinking in comparing themselves with others. They have a strong need to be better than others. 

4) How Do I Get What I Want? - Narcissists are needy people – with unsatisfiable void? 

• They are schemers & bullies in trying to get others to do their biddings. Watch how narcissists intimidate others. 

• Narcissists try to make others feel guilty or shame. Narcissists run smear campaigns. 

• They are willing to bribe others, whatever they have to do to get what they want.

5) Why Don’t People Respect Me? Because they do not respect others!

• Their anger give them away. Their anger can be triggered very easily, even when people are merely seeking clarifications.

6) Why Do People Not Trust Me? How do people trust actions of narcissists that are not genuine and often come with hidden agendas?

• Narcissists find difficulties in trusting themselves? Lacking in self-trust?

7) What Will Happen If People Find Out Unflattering Things About Me? This scares narcissists to death.

• This is the reason why narcissists often lies or only reveal half-truths.

• Narcissists hide and cover-up many things.

• Narcissists are tormented souls with many inner turmoils. (1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.)

Narcissists bring many difficulties to the relationships they have with other people due to these haunting questions that they have within themselves.  They expect the solutions to come from others as they blame others for whatever problems they face.